EP 49 - The Abilene Paradox

Imagine a group of people collectively deciding on a course of action that none of them really wants. This is the Abilene Paradox.

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The Abilene Paradox

Imagine a group of people collectively deciding on a course of action that none of them really wants. This is the Abilene Paradox.

Picture a family agreeing to drive to Abilene for dinner. Nobody wants to go, but they all think that the others do. They agree to avoid conflict. After and unenjoyable trip, they return home and discover that no one wanted to go in the first place. Each person feared opposing the others, assuming they had strong preferences. The result? An unnecessary, unsatisfying experience.

The Abilene Paradox isn’t just about dinner plans. It happens in workplaces and social groups when people don’t communicate their true feelings or beliefs. They go along with the group, even when it’s contrary to what they want, often leading to unproductive or frustrating outcomes.

So the next time you find yourself in a group, remember the Abilene Paradox. Don’t just go along with the crowd. Voice your true opinion. Open communication and the courage to speak up can prevent a metaphorical trip to Abilene and lead to better, more satisfying decisions.